Love has done it again

The woman is always the boss

The woman is always the boss

You know that friend, I met him again
this time a picture of misery
no longer was he in a swoon
but instead he acted as though his doom
had been met and there was no place to go
as he had already sunk pretty low.

This younger woman who had smitten him
had a mind of her own as most women do
and in fact she had turned him down
and not only that had put the blame
on him for not taking things nice and slow
instead because he wanted to know
just how serious things would become
and she told him that he was dumb
for expecting a sweet young thing like she
who was only looking to have a good time
with an older man with a lot of dimes.
“In any case” she had said,”In truth, I am already wed”.

He said to me, “It’s all your fault.
If I had never listened to you
and on my knee did ask this girl
to marry me and be my wife
but instead she laughed at me
for acting out this wild assed dream
and said that I had made a scene”
and then she told me goodnight
“Oh, and by the way, save your
thoughts for another day and with another
woman try for you are dreaming pie in the sky”.

I said, “Sorry, I called that one wrong
but I did forewarn you that it if you try
there would be no turning back
in your attempts to catch this girl”.

He thought about this for a while
and then he turned to me with a smile
and said, “Yes, you know you are right
I was an idiot to believe, that I could deceive this girl
into thinking that it was anything less,
and in truth what I really wanted her for
was as a trophy,  to put on my wall.
What other use would I have of she
so young, so beautiful and so naive of me
and after all the bottom line
was that she wanted to spend my dime”.

“I thank you for helping me
to see the error of my ways
and rescuing me from her grasp
and I think she will be my last
from here on out a bachelor me”.

A month later I  saw my friend
and I said, “Wait a minute, I know that look
I can read you like an open book,
don’t tell me you’ve done it again
and found yourself another girl”.

This time he turned to me and said,
“I met this woman much older this time
she is not after my dimes,
as money of her own has she
and in truth, much more than me
she is not married for I checked
I plan on taking this nice and slow
just so that I can show
that her money is not what attracts me”.

I shook his  hand and said, ” That’s nice
why don’t I believe your lies?
Your just a renegade at heart
doing your best, playing your part
and I think the reason why
you’re afraid that life is passing you by”.

He said, “You’re probably right
and I’m not going down without a fight
there is no place for me to go
to get what I think is coming to me”.

I said,” You called that right
you will definitely get into a plight
if with any woman you mess
my advice to you still stands
leave them alone for one thing I found
as beautiful and tempting for what they offer
is just not worth the price to be a lover”.

Just then, my cell phone rang
it was my wife wanting to know
when would I be home and by the way
stop at the store for we need this today
and don’t be late as you well know
that a dinner date to honor a friend
we must go.

I said yes dear, no dear and emitted a sigh
and my friend started to laugh, the reason why
“My goodness man, your no better than me
wrapped up in your own form of misery. At least
one thing is now clear, your advice I shall no longer heed
Good Luck with the dinner date”, he said
as he threw back his head and off into the night did go
whistling Dixie as he went.


Love, why do we act so strange…

Happy- for now

Happy- for now

I had a friend come up to me
as overjoyed as he could be
and when I asked him why
all he could do was sigh
and babble about this girl he had met
who was causing him to fret
and worry that she would get away
and no longer be interested to stay
like she had been for the past few months.

When I asked him of his concern
what could he do to help his fears
he explained to me that his years
were more than hers by quite a few
I asked, “Why does that bother you”
if she has not mentioned it you say
he, in turn, just mumbled away
and so I suggested to him,
“Why not ask her to marry you,
get down on one knee and propose,
The worst that she could say would be no
and at least then, you would know
that she is not the one for you
and even though it hurts like hell
your better off and you can tell
her that it’s not working out”.

On the other hand, if she says yes
then your answer you do have
and then you must decide
if in fact you really want
to take this young girl to be your bride
for after taking that giant leap
and proposing that you wed
in a corner you find yourself
with no way out unless you are dead.

He looked at me and did say
“How wise you are to think this way.
Me, I didn’t know what to do
I just didn’t have a clue
but now I see the problem lies
not with her and not with you
as your advice sounds so fine
I think I will ask her to be mine”.

So, he went on his way
much more cheerful than before
almost with a spring in his step
as he whistled a tune I recognized
as Richard Wagner‘s Wedding March
what has got into this poor man
that his moods from dark to rosy go
and then I remembered why
he is in love, that poor guy…


What makes this day so different.

From Phillip and Peter 2012

From Phillip and Peter 2012

When I woke this morning and glanced at the clock
and realized that the morning was here
I had slept through the night which for me
was unusual to say the least

If it is not the dogs barking
at some imaginary threat
then the call of nature is usually the key
to wake in the middle of the night for me.

My sleep drugged brain
was not reacting well to having so much rest
and befuddled in thought but content in the knowledge
that another night was safely gone
and no demons in wild dreams had bothered my thoughts
and no fighting the covers with moments to define.

I lay there for a while content to snuggle
with my doggie friends
all of us tucked in so warm not wanting to move
and break the spell until one of them
began to whine and I realized that for them
another day had started no different from the rest.

Then I remembered that this day
was more special than the others
for on this day many years ago
Baby Jesus was born to put us to the test
and the test is ongoing and does not just stay
with the day he was born on Christmas Day.

I jumped out of bed with a pat on the head
wished the dogs “Merry Christmas
they all looked at me but only to see
if their bowls were full for in the mind of a dog
this day is no different from the rest and for them
love is measured in  food and cookies and such
and not by the date or day of the year.

I talked to my sister in our annual chat
and spent some time happy that
in good health is she as well as can be
expected for someone older than me
by ten years which makes her eighty-six
while our mother lived on until finally she
died at the age of ninety-three.

My Sister looks good for her eighty-six years
and my hope is to be the same as she
and that we both live as long as our mother or more
as long as living is not a chore to us or to others
whose lot it may be to watch over my Sister and Me.

Life has its way of passing on by
sometimes  without so much as a try to slow down
just a bit to give us a chance
to live a bit longer before that last dance.


Austin Pond Society Christmas Dinner

The folks who attended

The folks who attended

The last meeting of the year for the Austin Pond Society was their Christmas Dinner held in the usual confines of the Zilker Gardens Meeting Rooms this past November 19. This was a pot luck as they usually are but with Roast Beef, Chicken Skewers and Salmon provided by the Pond Society and cooked by Sonya O’Sullivan who is our new Hospitality person.

There were about 45 members present all of whom brought some sort of dish so there was lots of food and drink to go round. I personally held it down a little as regards the size of my plate but it sure was a big temptation to go back for seconds and maybe thirds. The choice of deserts was out of this world and very tempting.

APS Board Members

APS Board Members

We had very little business except to vote in the members who will make up the new board. As this was done by acclamation, we got it done very quickly. The members are very grateful for those who are stepping down for the work they have done this past year. Most meeting groups are only as good as the volunteers who take the time to serve in different capacities on the board and we were lucky as we had a fantastic group.


Decorating the Christmas Tree

Several of the members were decorating a Christmas tree in competition with other organizations that are associated with Zilker Gardens. Sad to say, we were not among the prize winners.

Jeannie Ferrier had a game prepared for everyone to join in. It consisted of a sheet of paper on which were a list of questions and the goal was to get other members to provide you with an answer. You were supposed to introduce yourself prior to asking the member if they could help you. B.J. turned in the winning sheet getting all of her questions answered in record time. Me, I think I may have gotten three answered in the time allotted. Oh well, guess I am not the game type…Of course, I was busy taking pictures or at least that is my excuse.

With business out-of-the-way, Bill gave the order to get in line which as you can see by the pictures below were quickly followed by everyone except myself and Glen Hubenthal as we were busy taking pictures. We both got to eat a little later and did not miss out.

Everyone brought a gift which were placed together and then names were drawn. When you won, you had your choice of selecting any of the gifts from the table. Everyone had their name drawn at least once with some lucky people, twice.

All in all, it was a fun time and everyone got to enjoy, good companionship and good food. Our next meeting will be held next year on January 21, 2013. Hope to see you all there and maybe if you know of other Pond owners, you can drag them along. I’m sorry, I mean encourage them to come and join in the fun.

Oh yes, Happy Holidays to one and all and be careful out there. See you all next year.


Austin Pond Society October 2012 Meeting

Austin Pond Society

Austin Pond Society

The Austin Pond Society held its regular monthly meeting last evening at the Zilker Gardens Meeting Rooms. We meet the third Monday of the month with the exception of December when we do not hold a meeting. We always meet at the same place and same time, 7:00 pm.

Last nights meeting started with out usual sampling of goodies this time provided by Sonja O’Sullivan who has volunteered to be the new caterer. If last evenings offering is anything to go by, we are in for a treat in the coming months. I talked with Sonja about the food and not recognizing the main dish, asked her what it was called. She replied that she called it Cowboy Stew. When I first walked up to her, she was deep in conversation with another member comparing the ingredients she used in her version of the famous dish. I had never heard of it before and I have lived in Texas for more than 30 years.

Guess you got to be a bit of a cowboy to hear about this stuff which leaves me out. The closest I came to being a cowboy was when I bought a pair of pointed boots and a cowboy hat and rode a horse on a couple of trail rides for fun. In my past life, I did own a couple of horses and dabbled a bit in riding but I have to say that I got more pleasure  looking after them. My ex-wife ended my riding career by wanting to move from our 5 acres of heaven closer to the big city. I did keep the oldest horse in my back yard for several years although he wasn’t rideable, until I had to put him to sleep at the age of 36, pretty old for a horse.

I diverse so let’s get back to the meeting. Along with the Cowboy Stew was home-made cornbread and to finish off, chocolate cake. It was all absolutely delicious and I had to use a lot of will power not to go back for seconds. Thank you Weight Watchers.

Bill Brister called the meeting to order at about 7:15 pm and as he usually does, went over any business that needed attention. He didn’t have a lot to say except a plea for volunteers for the many positions still open on the board.

B.J. talked about the donations the Society had made this year to the four different schools and the reason they were chosen and a couple of others discussed other meetings they had attended.

The main speaker of the evening was Jeff Yarborough, Manager of the Emerald Gardens out by Oak Hill, one the of the many Pond Society sponsors. His subject was based on pond preparation for the winter, what to do and what not to worry about. The video below covers all of the topics he discussed. His biggest advice was to clean the leaves and debris out of the ponds before it gets too cold to limit the parasites from developing and then attacking the fish in the spring. He spoke a lot about installing aerators in the ponds to keep the oxygen level up through the winter months, and the fact that it really doesn’t get that cold here in Austin to worry too much about things in the water. He did warn everyone to drain pipes and pumps that were not being used through the winter to stop them from freezing especially with the above ground pumps.

I found his discussion very interesting and at the end, he opened it up for a Q and A session. Amazing the questions that people can come up with. The Emerald Gardens is holding its 20th Anniversary Salebration  Oct 13-21. For further details, check out their website at

We ended the evening with a general discussion about  meeting attendance and the fact that it is always the same people here with maybe just a couple of exceptions. One member, who said that it was her second meeting, alluded to the fact that she was disappointed that no one bothered to approach her to either make her feel welcome or to find out what she hoped to get out of attending. Others voiced the same concerns and several people mentioned that the regular members spent most of their time talking to each other.

When I think back, the reason I joined and first attended was to try to pick up as many tips and tricks from people with much more pond experience than me. This was at least 6 years ago and back then, I was unable to make regular attendance due to other commitments. I experienced very much the same thing that this lady was referring to as no one made me feel at home  or welcomed me either. Being a withdrawn type of person, it was not in me to barge in and make my presence felt and I can guarantee that many people are like me, preferring to stay on the fringes. I had reason to stand up and join in with my 5 cents worth  on this topic last evening and in a follow-up conversation with B.J. she mentioned how hard it must have been for me to have my say in front of the group.

Of all of the people who I have had dealings with in the Society, I have probably had more with B.J. than with anyone else due to her position as the Pond Tour person and it came as a bit of a  surprise that was how she perceived me. In my past life, I have made many public presentations to big audiences but again, maybe I have changed as the years progress. In my case, I have been very active in the Pond Society for the past two years because my schedule changed and yet, I still don’t know many of the members except to say hello. Most people know I write a blog and I have five ponds and that is the extent of it. A lot of that is my fault for not being more outgoing but its hard to change who you are. I can sympathize with any new members…And, oh yeah, I am still waiting to pick up ideas on pond improvement ideas from the meetings. It just hasn’t happened.

This discussion lasted about 15 minutes and several ideas were kicked around. Things like finding out at the start of every meeting if there were any new people in attendance and nominating a person to spend time with them as a mentor, trying the four “experts” in fish, plants, pond building  and general maintenance again, polling the existing members to see what they would like to see happen at the meetings and reaching out to some of our sponsors to have them display Pond Society information and things like that. It is a real concern that the same people are holding the Society together and if our numbers continue to drop, then we could really be in trouble. We usually have around 35 people to each meeting and by all accounts have well over 200 people who are members.  We need to reach out to them and try to get them back to the meetings if at all possible or at the very least, see if they have any ideas they could offer up.

The meeting closed with our usual drawing and the four winners all walked away richer by a door prize.

The next meeting is the end of the year meeting and is scheduled for November 18th, same place, same time. More details can be found on the website at  See you there…